I did it over the phone. She was living in Florida and I was in Maryland. We talked about it for about an hour and at the end of it I said the next time you get up here we will go shopping for a ring. Must have worked. I moved to Florida and we have been married for 13 years. I guess I'm saying there is no right or wrong way just go for it and if she loves you it won't make a difference how you do it.