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My mother's advice to me was to stop looking for the right one, BE the right one. Sounded good but not really sure what all that encompasses, although I now have an awesome wife that thinks highly of me and puts up with my quirky nature...most of the time.:D Oh, my mother also said, "there are worse things than being single". My mother is full of wise advice. I'd tell her about a good deal I got on a recent purchase. She would say, every time, without fail, "it would be even cheaper if you didn't buy it". Hard to argue with that! In all seriousness, learn to enjoy whatever "season" you are in, and being single really is not a bad thing. If you find the right one, great. If not, that's great also. Keep riding the bikes, go to TW gatherings, and enjoy life.
 

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I started giggling just reading the title. Boy, I got lucky Mrs. Admiral found me. My encounter number would be more like 1.8 per every 6 months (optimistically speaking).:D

H.O.P.E. you have a great summer!:p
 

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I started giggling just reading the title. Boy, I got lucky Mrs. Admiral found me. My encounter number would be more like 1.8 per every 6 months (optimistically speaking).:D

H.O.P.E. you have a great summer!:p
Lucky for me, The Admiral was easy to convince that he couldn't live without me any longer!!!!
 

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I have a buddy 41 and still single. Makes well over a 6 figure salary and by all accounts is a good looking dude. I must have met 20+ of his gal friends he was dating and every one was what I call the Barbi Doll, high maintenance hottie type and most were actually quite shallow once I spent a little time around them. He would love to be settled down and married and father a couple of children but he just can't get off the kick of sporting the Trophy gals. I keep telling him to dump the high rollers and find himself a nice down to earth country gal that has beauty from within but he won't listen. On the flip side, he would be a lousy catch for any nice gal. Far too self centered and way full of himself. If I knew a real sweet gal I would not even introduce her to him. He would surely find all of her faults quick and so would she find his. I am almost positive when and if he ever does pop the question and want to marry that he will have a lawyer draw up a prenuptial agreement protecting his possessions which are quite vast and looks like toys are us with nice cars, 2 or 3 Condos and a super nice fishing boat plus all the top gear to go with all the toys. I look at my buddy and all I can think is "You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink".

Fortunate for me that I learned pretty early that Eye Candy was sweet but always left a bad taste in my mouth. I also learned that we are what we were made from. At age 20 if you told me I would look just like my dad or mom I would have laughed at you. Now at age 65 I dam sure do look just like my dad and my wife now looks just like her mother did when I first met her and mom. Not at all a bad thing but certainly worth consideration if a trophy is what you are looking for. Very few of us age as gracefully as we would hope. My wife has 2 younger sisters and both, all 3, are their mothers daughters 30 years later. She has 2 brothers and both are their fathers sons and share pretty much most of the same quirks. Life is funny but for me I could not be happier to have found a gal who can put up with all my crap and I can deal with hers. There are plenty of times when we don't like each other but never has been a time when we did not love and respect each other. That is the key to a happy life.

I don't know Luv, maybe there has not yet been anyone who honestly deserves you.

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I have a buddy 41 and still single. Makes well over a 6 figure salary and by all accounts is a good looking dude. I must have met 20+ of his gal friends he was dating and every one was what I call the Barbi Doll, high maintenance hottie type and most were actually quite shallow once I spent a little time around them. He would love to be settled down and married and father a couple of children but he just can't get off the kick of sporting the Trophy gals. I keep telling him to dump the high rollers and find himself a nice down to earth country gal that has beauty from within but he won't listen. On the flip side, he would be a lousy catch for any nice gal. Far too self centered and way full of himself. If I knew a real sweet gal I would not even introduce her to him. He would surely find all of her faults quick and so would she find his. I am almost positive when and if he ever does pop the question and want to marry that he will have a lawyer draw up a prenuptial agreement protecting his possessions which are quite vast and looks like toys are us with nice cars, 2 or 3 Condos and a super nice fishing boat plus all the top gear to go with all the toys. I look at my buddy and all I can think is "You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink".

Fortunate for me that I learned pretty early that Eye Candy was sweet but always left a bad taste in my mouth. I also learned that we are what we were made from. At age 20 if you told me I would look just like my dad or mom I would have laughed at you. Now at age 65 I dam sure do look just like my dad and my wife now looks just like her mother did when I first met her and mom. Not at all a bad thing but certainly worth consideration if a trophy is what you are looking for. Very few of us age as gracefully as we would hope. My wife has 2 younger sisters and both, all 3, are their mothers daughters 30 years later. She has 2 brothers and both are their fathers sons and share pretty much most of the same quirks. Life is funny but for me I could not be happier to have found a gal who can put up with all my crap and I can deal with hers. There are plenty of times when we don't like each other but never has been a time when we did not love and respect each other. That is the key to a happy life.

I don't know Luv, maybe there has not yet been anyone who honestly deserves you.

GaryL

You JUST CAN'T fix Stupid, Garyl...
He is what he is, and change comes slow or not at all to some people. Beauty IS really skin deep, but character goes straight through to the soul.
 

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I don't know Luv, maybe there has not yet been anyone who honestly deserves you.

GaryL
What a nice kind thought Gary. Luv is pretty special. :)
 

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You JUST CAN'T fix Stupid, Garyl...
He is what he is, and change comes slow or not at all to some people. Beauty IS really skin deep, but character goes straight through to the soul.
Stupid is more a matter of involving yourself in other peoples love lives! I think my buddy is just selfish and not willing to make room for any gal who will most certainly get in his set ways. We gave up on match making years ago after my best buddy married my wife's sister. They are still together and still OK except both are miserable and basically just live in the same house.

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Thanks for the kind words, GaryL! Honestly, this was posted more for fun than anything. I do get lonely sometimes, but I'm not really looking for love right now.

My biggest obstacle is I'm an introvert's introvert - might as well be a hermit :p. I'm very cautious around people - not the most open person in the world - but am fiercely loyal to my small circle of friends. My ex and I knew each other for 10 years before we started dating and got married. He was my best friend. But sometimes friends grow apart and need different things. We're still friends, just no longer married.

There is someone for everyone out there. They just have to be open to meeting them. It took my mother until she was 64 to find the right man who wasn't intimidated by her independence. I definitely don't want to wait that long, but won't go for 'just anyone' either. :rolleyes: I get out and socialize in spurts, then have to hide for a few days/weeks/months to recharge and recuperate (LOL). It's just how I'm built. It will all work out in time.

In the mean time, though, I thought this was pretty funny and could relate to the formulas ;)
 

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Thanks for the kind words, GaryL! Honestly, this was posted more for fun than anything. I do get lonely sometimes, but I'm not really looking for love right now.

My biggest obstacle is I'm an introvert's introvert - might as well be a hermit :p. I'm very cautious around people - not the most open person in the world - but am fiercely loyal to my small circle of friends. My ex and I knew each other for 10 years before we started dating and got married. He was my best friend. But sometimes friends grow apart and need different things. We're still friends, just no longer married.

There is someone for everyone out there. They just have to be open to meeting them. It took my mother until she was 64 to find the right man who wasn't intimidated by her independence. I definitely don't want to wait that long, but won't go for 'just anyone' either. :rolleyes: I get out and socialize in spurts, then have to hide for a few days/weeks/months to recharge and recuperate (LOL). It's just how I'm built. It will all work out in time.

In the mean time, though, I thought this was pretty funny and could relate to the formulas ;)
Ha! If it is any consolation, I usually found lovers when I was looking but never did find real love until I gave up looking. I also firmly believe there is someone out there for all of us but most of us don't know it even if it is right there in plain view. Some of us build walls and then there are others who learn to climb over them. I too found the video rather funny but it also had a twinge of reality in it. I found my wife or was it she found me while she was out shopping with her mother. It was her mother who clinched the deal of a lifetime by saying "Why don't you two exchange numbers". That was 32 years ago and a wild ride ever since. We are actually going to her family reunion on Friday and will see her mother for the last time, or so they have said for these last few reunions. Mom lives in AZ and her family is in Rochester, NY while we are 5 hours south near the tri state borders of NY, NJ and PA. No foul feelings with her side because they are all reserved on my side so I will have a great time.

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Thanks for the kind words, GaryL! Honestly, this was posted more for fun than anything. I do get lonely sometimes, but I'm not really looking for love right now.

My biggest obstacle is I'm an introvert's introvert - might as well be a hermit :p. I'm very cautious around people - not the most open person in the world - but am fiercely loyal to my small circle of friends. My ex and I knew each other for 10 years before we started dating and got married. He was my best friend. But sometimes friends grow apart and need different things. We're still friends, just no longer married.

There is someone for everyone out there. They just have to be open to meeting them. It took my mother until she was 64 to find the right man who wasn't intimidated by her independence. I definitely don't want to wait that long, but won't go for 'just anyone' either. :rolleyes: I get out and socialize in spurts, then have to hide for a few days/weeks/months to recharge and recuperate (LOL). It's just how I'm built. It will all work out in time.

In the mean time, though, I thought this was pretty funny and could relate to the formulas ;)
My great grandmother used to say there's a lid for every pot. I'm living proof of that...
 

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Funny video, and very accurate i think.
Most of my friends from high school married the first girlfriend.
Since no one other than my mother would call me handsome (thanks mom!) I had no girlfriends or even a date all through high school.
After graduating I lived on a sailboat, got my captains license and started taking tourists sailing.
Lahaina, Maui.

Every day there were dozens of great looking women on vacation and looking for things to do.
I couldn't count how many girls/women I was able to spend a couple hours with on my boat with nothing much to do other than talk (and go snorkeling).
Many of them would be a "10" in anyone's book and they generally knew it.

Of course I took couples, married and not, as well as single girls.
It was a great learning experience and boosted my self confidence tremendously.
I soon learned that the appearance of the person became much less important after talking with them for a while and seeing who they really are.
We are so easily blinded by what we see on the outside!
Stupid guy genes I think.

I did get to know a few better when they could also see past the outside and discovered they liked me.
But they were always on vacation, here for a few days or a couple weeks and then back home to their regular lives.
I flew over to see them (one at a time of course! I never had more than one at a time and it worked out to less than one a year over the 8 years) but it was never the same.
They were different in their home environment and I was different out of mine. The fish out of water thing...

I made a lot of friends and learned a lot about people and relationships.
That made me decide that if/when I met a girl I was really serious about I would get to know her for at least 2 years before proposing.
I had learned that people change and that is normal, not good or bad, just a fact of life and if you want to have a lasting marriage you have to give it time.
We quickly learn a person's good qualities but it may take a long time to see their not so good side.

I met my wife through a friend and my first thoughts were that she was too cute, too young, and too short.
She thought I was terribly slow and didn't ask her out for a date until we had known each other for a year.
We were often together with a group of similar aged single and married friends doing fun things.
Hiking, biking, climbing, playing soccer, baseball, and many other fun things, almost every weekend.

I liked that she was always in the thick of things, racing around on the soccer field for example when most of the other single girls would stand on the sidelines in their pretty clothes and cheer the guys on.
She didn't find someone she liked better so after two years I asked her to marry me.
We are coming up on our 33rd anniversary and going great.

But I can honestly look back at the other GF's I had back then and I realize it would not likely have worked out with any of them.
Different reasons, but mostly that I was too young and stupid and didn't understand that living with someone is not the same as dating them.

Together or single is all about attitude.
We can be happy either way, or we can be miserable either way.
 
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